By now the door has flung wide open on my indulgent affair with reality tv, visible to all by my own actions. Last night’s rendezvous featured the Kardashian clan, and I was spurred to consider what’s going on with Rob (or individuals like him) – his reported depression and subsequent [associated] weight gain are common signs of an individual who needs love and support due to internal and external stressors and imbalances. Interventions are possible and with the dedication of those close to individuals suffering from depression, they can pull through and leave much of their depressive, haunting episodes behind. While the imbalances may continue to present in a person’s life, there are therapies that have proved effective at managing the magnitude of the impact they have.
Through my own battles with anxiety and ADHD I have endured painful weight losses and gains, finally managing to stabilize my weight in a healthy range with a lot of work. I’m neither special nor unique, though: coming through a life circumstance(s) that garner(s) a certain relationship with food requires diligence, patience and sometimes therapy. Having been through something similar – and something with which I STILL struggle – I can recognize the signs of emotional eating (as probably many of us can) and individuals who are not in a position to help themselves yet.
Some individuals are not ready to hear our desires to help –sometimes it is as though the weight gain represents defiance, people attempting to sabotage their own happiness, digging their heels in in the hopes that gaining body weight becomes a literal weight holding them back. I’m not a trained psychologist so I admit my speculation, and I will hold firm on my use of “sometimes.” For other individuals, a relationship with food began young and flourished through years of convenience and excuses. Yes, excuses: we can say anything we want about why we are the way we are – there are powerful tools to get ourselves healthy again, to have control of our emotions and over food.
There are also resources for individuals who wish to read more about emotional eating, disordered eating and why food temporarily elevates our moods.